“What Happens If I Don’t…{insert anything here}?” This little question packs a powerful punch. Find out how asking this question can help you figure out priorities in your own life.

"What Happens If I Don't...{insert anything here}?" This little question packs a powerful punch. Find out how asking this question can help you figure out priorities in your own life.

“What Happens If I Don’t…?”

Happy Wednesday Friends!

This post has been brewing for a while and I’m excited to finally share it with you! Grab you coffee or tea (or matcha latte! My order from Thrive Market (<–affiliate) arrives TODAY with a new container of matcha just waiting to be added to some homemade almond milk!) and let’s get started.

“What Happens If I Don’t…?”

I was on a podcast walk a couple weeks ago when I asked myself this question. Liz and Diane over at Balanced Bites had been doing a mini-series on adrenal fatigue and this was just before meeting with my dietician to chat about the possibility of me having the same problem. The podcast I listened to was about The Myth of Balance & Doing It All. Don’t you love when podcasts or blog posts are written for you? Like, it feels like the author is talking TO YOU?

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As I listened to the podcast, I asked myself, ‘What Happens If I Don’t…’ and then I picked the different things I’d been stressing over: should I cut back on my classes? Do I still enjoy teaching my classes? What is my social media strategy? What do I post to Insta if I slack on taking pictures of my life? Should I totally back off from my business right now or still stay in the game with the new job? What are we going to eat for dinner this week? Why am I always so tired? Thing after thing after thing.

If you’ve read this blog for any length of time, you might say ‘Uhuh, yep.’ when I point out the fact that I’m a type-A overachiever. I tend to take on alot of things. I’m an obliger, which means I tend to want to make other people happy more than taking time for myself. I tend to push myself until my body physically tells me to stop. I feel like I always need to be Superwoman. I feel like I always need to do…

See, since I started college in 2006, I’ve never had just.one.job. Make that early 2007 when I started working 2 jobs. It’s always been what I do. At my last full time job a couple years ago, during my 2 year stint, I worked the job AND at LOFT, as well as the job AND taught bootcamp classes…at 5am. In the last 10 years (gosh, I’m getting old!), the time I’ve not worked at least 2 jobs would likely total 1 year, if that.

So when I got my current job, I somehow thought that I could manage the full time job, training at least 1 in-person client, 2 classes per week, 3 blog posts per week, keeping up with online personal training clients and spend time with my husband, all while trying to heal from adrenal fatigue.

Are you laughing too?

When I told my mom that I finally realized I couldn’t do EVERYTHING and only wanted to do my full time gig for a while, she did her motherly smile and said, ‘Yea, that’s exactly what you need. You can’t do everything, babe.’…or something along those lines. You know mom’s.

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I came to this realization that I couldn’t do everything by asking the question, ‘What Happens If I Don’t…’

What happens if I don’t teach 2 fitness classes each week? Well, I don’t teach 2 classes per week. My nights are free. I might have more time to focus on my own workouts. Would I miss teaching, yes, probably, but with everything going on, I honestly was feeling burnt out. Time for a break. Check.

What happens if I don’t train clients in the morning before work, at 5 or 6am? Uh, I can sleep in. With being so tired lately, all I wanted to do was sleep in. If I didn’t train in the morning, it’s not like I won’t be able to pay the bills or anything, thanks to the full time job. Would I miss my client? Heck yes, I enjoy working with her and I want to help her succeed. The thing is, I could get up at 5 or 6 am to train in person clients, but if I’m not putting my health and wellness needs first, I won’t be able to effectively train my client. I was to the point where I felt like I couldn’t give the 150% that I wanted to give. I didn’t feel like I could give 100% even.

What happens if I don’t give more time to my business? This was a tough one. Remember how I realized earlier this year that while I want to run my own business, I want it to encompass more than just fitness? Realizing that my vision had shifted eased my worry about taking a step back from Burpees for Breakfast, The Business. Over the past few months, life experiences have really shaped the way I view fitness and the way I ultimately want to help people, from a business perspective. I want to bring in even more of a holistic approach to things and that means a shift in vision and the way I operate. I need some time to figure out what that means and how it will look and now is the perfect time to do that. Not having to rely on the business as a source of income took a huge stress off me. Trying to run something and have it make money when you are not in it 100% is just tough, ya’ll. So, taking a step back was necessary.

What happens if I don’t give up my 4-5 cup of coffee a day habit? Now, in that first week of work, between work training and client training, my coffee addiction had taken on a whole new level. If I continued to drink it like water, my stomach would NOT be happy. And after all my tummy troubles, I want to keep a well functioning gut. The choice was simple, really, cut the coffee or feel terrible.

When I was venting to my husband, around the time of this podcast, I mentioned that I was thinking of cutting back on things because I couldn’t handle it. He was like, ‘You are choosing to do [insert task here].’ Yeah, I was choosing to train clients early in the morning, to do classes, etc. But when my body couldn’t handle it, I made the choice to step back. To stop. Which was honestly, a really hard choice for the Obliger in me.

Sometimes it’s hard to remember that we have choices. We can fall into that comparison trap. Ms. Boss Lady over there is running 3 businesses with 3 kids and husband, she cooks every meal at home, milks her own cows, grows all the vegetables, volunteers every morning, works out, eats healthy, never watches TV, reads a book a day and does it all on one cup of coffee! Slight exaggeration, I know, but you see what I mean, right? It always seems like there is one, if not many, other women out there, doing just a smidgen more than you are doing, and still functioning like a normal human.

Don’t fall into the comparison trap. It’s so easy to do though! I had to tell myself to stop and realize that I’m in a different season that Ms. Boss Lady. Right now, my business is not the business of my dreams. Right now, my body needs a slow down. Right now, self care needs to be my priority. For Ms. Boss Lady, she might have already gone through those seasons. Or she might go through them soon…and I’ll be pointing and laughing, sipping on my coffee, when that happens! Haha! No, not really. I don’t roll like that.

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Choices. Priorities. Seasons. Who are in supposed to be in your season? Right now, I realized, first and foremost, I’m Jen – Jen. Then Jen – Wife, Jen – Program Delivery Manager 1, Jen – Blogger, and so on. Jen – Jen means that I’m all about ME for the next little bit. If I don’t get a blog post done because taking time to rest and relax was more important, then so be it. If my body says it’s not time to workout, but do some light yoga or watch a show with my Hubby, then that’s what’s going to happen (more on that Friday). If I don’t have anything of value to share on Instagram, I’m going to not post and be okay with not posting for one day.

Some might not agree with this, I get it. It’s where the hustle comes in. But, Sophia Amoruso says, ‘A Girlboss knows when to throw the punches and when to roll with them.’ Right now, I’m rolling with them, okkkkkayyy.

"What Happens If I Don't...{insert anything here}?" This little question packs a powerful punch. Find out how asking this question can help you figure out priorities in your own life. | Burpees for Breakfast

So, to you I ask, ‘What Happens If YOU Don,’t [insert task here]?’ Now, realize that your answer to this question doesn’t have to be some big life changing revelation. And it might not be something you can’t remove…’What happens if I don’t get up for work and just decide to take the day off?’ Well, New Hire, it’s likely that you won’t have a job to go to the next day. You see what I mean?

Obviously, you can ask this question of many things in your life and get different answers. Particularly, I’d recommend this question if you are stressing or struggling over a task. Go through all possibilities and see if you can gain new insight.


Whew, I think I got all that out in one post. My fingers were feverishly typing, yet I managed to go 30 minutes over the time I wanted to spend getting this post done. It’s Tuesday night as I type and my goal is to get in a morning workout. In and out of the gym in 30 minutes or less. Mobility/stretching and 10 minutes of strength. We will see how I do.

So, tell me:

What Happens If YOU Don’t…?
What are you up too this evening?

XOXO,
Jen

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